The bylines are pen names
Two names appear on the articles here. They are pen names used by the editorial team, in the ordinary way a magazine uses a house byline, so that a reader can tell which part of the site a page belongs to. The portraits beside them are drawn illustrations, not photographs of anyone.
We are stating that here rather than leaving you to work it out, because the alternative is the thing this subject is full of: a warm photograph and a first-person story attached to advice assembled from the same public sources as everybody else’s. A pen name that says it is a pen name is honest. A stock face with an invented biography is not.
Rae Whitfield
Editor · dating and re-partnering
Rae is a pen name used by the Divorced Love editorial team for the dating side of the site: when people start, what the first year of dating actually looks like, and how to read someone who is newly out of a marriage. Not a therapist, not a coach, and not writing from personal experience — the work here is reading the research and the questions people actually ask.
Writes: Dating again · Dating a divorcee · Mid-divorce
Miriam Osei
Editor · life after divorce and the numbers
Miriam is a pen name used by the Divorced Love editorial team for the part of the site that is not about dating: the practical shape of the first year, divorce after fifty, and the statistics pages. Every figure she publishes is traced to a named primary source before it goes up, and the ones that could not be traced are listed too.
Writes: Life after · After 50
What this is
A reference site about dating and life after a divorce. It answers the questions people actually type, in the order they tend to arrive: when to start, how to read someone who is newly out of a marriage, what the first year does to a week, and what changes after fifty.
Every page opens with the answer in about fifty words, followed by the part that makes it honest rather than tidy. That structure is the site.
What we are not
Not therapists, not counsellors, not lawyers, not coaches with a programme. Nobody here has letters after their name in this subject, and no page will imply otherwise. What the site does is narrower: read the primary sources, read the questions, and write down what can honestly be said — including, often, that the answer depends on facts only your own professional knows.
If a real person with real experience ever contributes here, they will appear as a named, dated, confirmed quotation and nothing else.
Where the numbers come from
Every figure on this site is traced to a named primary source with a year before it is published, and the ones that could not be traced are listed too — including the one everybody repeats about half of all marriages, which turns out to have no source behind it. The full list, and the list of what we rejected, is on the sources page.
How this site makes money
Some links to dating services are affiliate links. They never change what is recommended, what order things appear in, or what a review says. Where a service is not worth using, the page says so and does not link to it.
What this site will not do
It will not give legal advice. Anything touching money, property, custody, pensions or filing goes to a solicitor or attorney in your own jurisdiction, and we will say so rather than guess. It will not give therapeutic advice or diagnose anybody, and it will not tell you that your marriage ended for a reason.